When I was twenty-one years old I left the small Connecticut town where I had lived my whole life and moved to a city in South America with my brand new husband. It was his career that took us there and I could not have been more excited! Although I did not speak Spanish and was as unfamiliar with the culture as I was with my husband, it seemed like a glorious adventure.
The first few months were spent in a hotel, which was a lonely and isolating experience. However, I was sure that once we had our own place I would settle into a new community easily. I was wrong. Our rented house was on a quiet street and no one seemed to have any interest in the young couple newly arrived from Washington, DC. Even with language classes and sightseeing excursions I couldn’t shake the sadness I felt. Surprisingly, I seemed unable to make friends. Although I told each new acquaintance I was happy, it took one powerful question to make me open up. She asked, “if you could change anything right now, what would it be?” The only thing I really wanted to change was to get out of my own bad mood! From this first real friendship, came my new beginning.
That connection led to others and soon I was part of a community, involved with several groups and with a part-time job. My neighbors seemed to come to life as well. My husband and I began inviting them over to practice our language skills. I stopped thinking about my past and focused on moving forward. It was that focus and intention that helped me turn the corner. I regained my identity and confidence through a combination of grit, attitude and action. Reinventing myself was hit and miss. Some things I thought would work out did not. With each failure I learned something and with each success I felt proud.
Relocation as a Way of Life
For the next thirty-five years I was on the road with my husband and children living the highs and lows of relocation. That first experience peaked my interest on how others handled transitions. I went to graduate school, I researched and studied adjustment and cross-cultural adaption and wrote a curriculum for international schools called Kids On The Go. I was also a trainer at the Foreign Service Institute, Department of State.
This year, a life coaching colleague and I developed a program called Crossing Borders with Confidence (CBC). It is designed to help with the sense of imbalance that comes from transitions and relocation. CBC workshops and one-on-one coaching sessions are ways to build up confidence and focus by taking steps to change thoughts, beliefs and actions for a smooth adjustment to a fulfilled life.
If we want things to stay as they are, things will have to change. –Giuseppe de Lampdusa
Facing a big change, moving yourself and/or young children? With the right tools, navigated conversations and the intention to create something great, you too can discover ways to make a life transition into a fresh new beginning. Let’s get started now on identifying what you want and find a way to get you there.
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